Costa Rica, Family, Leadership, Learning a second language, Learning Spanish

What’s the return rate on an “experience?”

images copyIn a recent national poll with two choices – keep your current debt level or gain 25 pounds and have your debt erased, 72% of Americans said they’d rather keep the debt than put on the pounds.  A fascinating statistic considering the average household’s debt is 112% of disposable income.  So for most of us, vanity trumps financial peace of mind.  What other financial trade-offs might we be willing to make?

Here is one for consideration.  What percentage of your current savings would you give up to spend a one-year sabbatical, family experience abroad complete with rich learnings?  This question hits close to home for me as we are trying to capture the following things on our experience abroad.

For some context to answer this question here is some food for thought.

A one-year excursion to a foreign country is very expensive.  Without real intentionality and financial planning, it will never happen.  And all the advanced planning and budgeting still doesn’t ease the pain of seeing investment dollars (and Colones) go through the drain (especially while the faucet is temporarily shut off).  There are the cash costs such as school, rent, a car, monthly expenses abroad, monthly expenses back home, etc.  Add on top of this new foregone savings (you don’t really give up salary on a sabbatical, only the savings/investment that would have resulted from that salary).

Assessing the value of an abroad experience is very difficult. It’s kind of an expense and it’s kind of an investment, but not exactly either.  Keep in mind that there will be storms along the way, so your notion of the “experience value” will likely shift throughout the experience and well after.  And the value placed on a particular experience will vary by as many people as you ask, so perhaps consider the questions below:

  • What would be the value to you in reclaiming a year with your oldest kids?
  • How about the value of your family knowing a second language and culture?
  • How about the value of personal reflection time vs. a never-ending to-do list?
  • How about the value of pursuing and mastering a long-desired hobby?
  • How about completing all of the above things at the same time?
  • Are you ready to weather the storms that come during the experience?

In our current situation, the immediate costs are much easier to determine than the collective long-term benefits, which makes the process a struggle at times.  Regardless, this was our dream and our gut feel is that it will pay off in many multiples over time, and likely even in some unexpected ways.

Amazing Things, Family, Friendship, Nicaragua

Still Amazed

I recently sat on a balcony in Nicaragua for 30 minutes just watching the skyline and the falling sun in this picture. I’ve seen thousands of sunsets and they never cease to amaze me. Even when I know something will happen, should happen or could happen, I still find myself amazed when it does happen.

The dictionary defines “amaze” as follows: to overwhelm with surprise or sudden wonder; astonish greatly; something unexpectedly wonderful. Even Jesus, an all-knowing savior, was amazed at something he knew would or could happen [albeit only twice; in Luke 7:9 he was amazed at the centurion’s demonstration of faith and in Mark 6:6 he was amazed at a lack of faith in his hometown of Nazareth].

Focus on amazing things – they are all around you and they can overcome the negative nuance of the day.

As a kid it is easy to marvel or wonder at lots of new things and as we get older our sense of wonderment at new things or experiences tends to fade. Each day, it is so easy to let my mind dwell on the negative things around me, instead of centering it on amazing experiences that enrich it, be they large or small. My current outlook and even my whole day can quickly turn positive when I look for and focus on amazing things all around me, such as:

  • Watching a beautiful sunrise or sunset. There is something lifting to the soul to quietly watch this happen.
  • Seeing my kids do something completely selfless, demonstrate great sportsmanship, etc. We expect these outcomes at least some of the time, but even so, when it happens it is magic.
  • Witnessing someone simply do the right thing – return incorrect change, stop and help someone with car trouble, etc.
  • Hearing a sermon or a verse in a song, or reading a passage in a book that seems to be crafted just for me and what I need to hear or read at that time.
  • My four girls running to give me hugs and kisses before catching the school bus in the morning warms my heart and provides lots of perspective on other issues.

How are you amazing someone right now?

As mentioned above, Jesus was only amazed twice in the New Testament; yet he continuously amazed everyone by what he said and what he did.  I heard a message from Craig Groeschel once where he asked a simple question that has weighed on my mind since – “When was the last time people were amazed at your boldness (for the Kingdom)?”

The above question can be applied in some other similar contexts.  What actions, big or small, could I be taking each day in my own life to amaze someone and give them something positive to focus on in their life?  How could I amaze someone in a way that inspires him or her to take action? Or get out of a rut? Or take an uncomfortable step in a new, but needed, direction?

Whats amazing in your life that you should focus on when negative thoughts and feelings creep in?  What could you be doing now to amaze others in a life affirming and uplifting way?

See more pics from our recent trip to Nicaragua in the picture gallery